(Real Love Versus Selfish Love)
Do everything with the attitude of love-love for God and for God in all. It is hard for the ordinary person to tell the difference between a desire for others good and a desire to satisfy self-love. Often one who is well-intentioned in caring for others is carried away instead by self-love. When the desire for self-interest is gone completely from the consciousness, and the only desire is to serve others and do the highest good for all, that is wisdom. It is very difficult to do; but when selfish love completely goes, then one tastes divine love.
Real love is when you are constantly watching the progress of the soul. As soon as you cater to someone’s physical desires and bad habits you are not loving that soul anymore. You are just pleasing that person to avoid ill will. No matter how unpleasant it is to tell a friend that he is wrong, if you say it with love in your heart and stand firm on it, sometime that person will respect you if you are right. If you are wrong, even then he will know that you did it with sincerity, out of love. Never agree with anyone who is wrong, not even those who are nearest and dearest to you. To agree with wrongdoing is to bribe your soul in order to be looked upon favorably by the wrongdoer, and that will come out later on in some disastrous results. Do not fight; that is not the way to convince them. The way to influence others is by your love. Say what you have to say once or twice and then disband it from your mind. Be humble and free from anger. Just say, “Let us wait and see. Time will tell.” Time brings out everything; and if there is a sympathetic understanding between friends, there will be no “I was right and you were wrong” attitude.
So this is my prayer to you, that all of you learn how to be true friends, how to be truly loving souls. If you have that divine attitude, you will be conquerors of hearts. There is nothing more satisfying than that. You will never be alone, for you will attract to yourself real souls. Even if you are left alone, you are with God.
You do not know how wonderful is that kind of love. It is sublime. At times you glimpse it when you are very happy and feel that oneness with God in others-when you love each other because God is your Father, irrespective of any human relation.